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I'm 26 years old, I'm pregnant (!), and I ache all the time. I have tendonitis all throughout my body, including the bottom of my feet which makes it hard to walk. Ive got arthritis in bones I've broken pretty badly. Even so i help maintain my environment, plan to work up until I go into labor, and will be going back to equestrian school. I honestly feel like pain isnt really an excuse to get out of helping. Even if its something g as simple as sweeping the floor. You shouldn't have to do it all and I'm sorry you are :(

You need to communicate this with him.
I have no doubt you have told him you need help but I mean really sit and talk about the whole situation, even that you are considering leaving.
As much as we would like, men aren’t mind readers and sure as hell cant pick up on female cues/hints.
Not to excuse his pain, I have no idea about the situation as to why he is in pain...I done my back earlier this year, had a partial stroke and got a pulmonary embolism two months ago. The pain is really getting to me, I lost my job and I can’t do much of anything (I need a stick to be able to even walk) Oh and I’m 35....The depression is really bad because of how useless I am feeling and being in pain all the time.
I have to try and stay out of my head and try and focus on the basic levels of recovery. I had to also go the Dr and get some serious antidepressants. I don’t know if you or your husband have spoken with a Dr about possible depression?
If his response is to not take your feelings under consideration and to tell you to “get over it”, then it sounds like the communication in your relationship is non existent and it might be time to leave.
Not sharing the house work is one of the top reason people get divorced...but it sounds like your unhappiness is a lot deeper than that.

Big hugs for you hun...feel free to PM me any time.

A note to everyone: If anyone ever needs to just chat about anything, I am always open for conversation.

Oh I'm glad he has helped out...I'm sure it was like pushing shi$ up a hill with a pointed stick.
It is always so stressful when family come over and you want the house just so.
It's also hard when everyone involved isn't in a good place at the moment.
Fell free to vent as much as you like....I'm sure there will always be someone around to listen :x